Olha Rudyaka-Petrychenko is a psychologist, trainer, lecturer, member of the Ukrainian Psychological Association and the Ukrainian Union of Psychotherapists
Psychological preparation of children for the new school year during the war requires special attention to their emotional state and the use of various approaches.
Open communication, positive thinking, daily routines, maintaining social connections and play therapy can greatly facilitate this process. By following these recommendations, you can help your child cope with the challenges and start the school year with confidence and optimism.
The beginning of a new school year always carries a certain challenge for a child, and in the context of martial law, it becomes more complex and multilayered.
Along with the natural changes that come with the start of school, anxiety and uncertainty are added, which are inherent in the current security situation. That is why it is important to help children adapt to new conditions, support them emotionally and create a safe space for growth and development.
Above all, it is important that your child feels supported and understood. Open communication is a key element in reducing anxiety and strengthening emotional resilience. Studies conducted by psychologists have shown that children who have the support of their parents are better able to cope with any challenges. Therefore, it is worth finding time for a frank conversation to discuss expectations for the new school year and address possible fears and concerns.
Let your child know that their feelings are important to you and that together you can overcome any difficulties.
An important step on the way to psychological readiness is the development of positive thinking. Children who learn to replace negative thoughts with positive ones are much more likely to adapt to stressful situations. This can be done through simple exercises, such as teaching a child to say encouraging words to himself or herself. If a child doubts his or her abilities, help him or her change this internal dialogue to a positive one. Such techniques are an effective tool in overcoming stress and anxiety.
But don’t promise them that it’s all fun and games and positive and that they will love it – otherwise, if they feel that this is not the case, they will be left with a sense of deception and the skills to distrust your words. Let him make his own impression.
It is equally important to create a stable daily routine. Regularity and predictability help a child reduce stress. Planning the day together with your child – with time for study, rest and physical activity – will create a sense of stability and confidence. Develop a ritual together – for example, a morning walk before school or a scheduled time in the evening.
Social connections also play a significant role in the adjustment process. Communication with peers helps a child feel part of a community, which is an important factor in overcoming anxiety.
Especially when it comes to first-graders, play practices can be a powerful means of adaptation and your assistant. Role-playing games that simulate school situations help your child learn new skills and reduce anxiety. For example, you can re-enact a scenario of the first day of school together, which will help your child feel more prepared for the real thing.
Your support and love will be the best shield for your child during this difficult time.
Remember, no one knows your child better than you, so no matter how fast they grow up, your understanding, support, encouragement and faith in them will work wonders!
And if you see that your child or you are not coping, do not be embarrassed, you can always ask for help from teachers, psychologists, and doctors.